Same here! As a child I would have full on paralysis when I was forced to choose. I was told a lot “well if you don’t chose you get nothing” so most of the time I got nothing, or felt like
No matter what choice I made it was the wrong one. Takes a lot to undo that patterning.
Yes! And being told that if I don’t choose the choice will be made for me and it’ll be one I don’t like. And that has always made me wonder why can’t I just choose “all of the above! “
Yes… and when you do painfully choose an answer, like on a personality test or something… you tally up the results and they are like: you scored an equal number in 4/5 categories… 🫠
I hear that. I find that advice deeply problematic because it focuses on trying to make a person linear and fitting into the overall structure instead of allowing for the multiplicity of being through interests.
Yeah, I agree. I find linearity painful and in medicine if you have a straight line (heart monitor) you’re dead, so there’s that. I do much prefer the crooked path with all the twists, turns, spirals and such.
I also prefer the spirals, twists, turns and discoveries and that's what we're about...because when people get to experiment and discover it makes things more fascinating. Have you signed up for the alchemy lab yet? It's free to you because you're a paid subscriber and I'd love to see you there.
All of my life I have been too interested in too much stuff and being told to pick just one thing has been a type of death sentence for me!
Same here! As a child I would have full on paralysis when I was forced to choose. I was told a lot “well if you don’t chose you get nothing” so most of the time I got nothing, or felt like
No matter what choice I made it was the wrong one. Takes a lot to undo that patterning.
Yes! And being told that if I don’t choose the choice will be made for me and it’ll be one I don’t like. And that has always made me wonder why can’t I just choose “all of the above! “
Yes… and when you do painfully choose an answer, like on a personality test or something… you tally up the results and they are like: you scored an equal number in 4/5 categories… 🫠
I say choose all the above!
I hear that. I find that advice deeply problematic because it focuses on trying to make a person linear and fitting into the overall structure instead of allowing for the multiplicity of being through interests.
Yeah, I agree. I find linearity painful and in medicine if you have a straight line (heart monitor) you’re dead, so there’s that. I do much prefer the crooked path with all the twists, turns, spirals and such.
I also prefer the spirals, twists, turns and discoveries and that's what we're about...because when people get to experiment and discover it makes things more fascinating. Have you signed up for the alchemy lab yet? It's free to you because you're a paid subscriber and I'd love to see you there.